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		<description><![CDATA[from Stepcase Lifehack by Seth Simonds
Are you exhausted, annoyed, and ready to throw in the towel on something that once made you leap out of bed with joy every morning? I know that feeling well. It’s one I suffered from often in the past and still encounter occasionally. It typically signals an impending burnout.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>from <a href="http://www.google.com/reader/view/feed/http%3A%2F%2Fwww.lifehack.org%2Ffeed">Stepcase Lifehack</a> by Seth Simonds</p>
<p><strong>Are you exhausted, annoyed, and ready to throw in the towel on something that once made you leap out of bed with joy every morning?</strong> I know that feeling well. It’s one I suffered from often in the past and still encounter occasionally. It typically signals an impending burnout.</p>
<p>Not the type of burnout you get from dropping your 93 Honda Civic into 3rd gear at 6,000 rpm’s. The type of burnout that makes you avoid work, question the value of your existence, and eat large quantities of Oreo cookies while watching bad television.</p>
<p>How can you avoid burnout and stay in a productive rhythm? <strong>Here are 11 ways you can start safeguarding your life against burnout:</strong></p>
<h4>1. Schedule regular social activities</h4>
<p>Remember when you used to spend time with people you were neither working with nor sleeping with? You watched movies, ate meals, played games, and went on trips. You were active and you had fun!</p>
<p>You can regain some of that emotional fulfillment by contacting some of your old pals and scheduling regular activities. It doesn’t need to be anything crazy. Sure, rafting in Alaska would be fun but a monthly brunch with people you don’t see every day will do just fine. <em>The point of this exercise is to expand your social horizon and crush the feeling that you’re stuck doing the same thing every day.</em></p>
<h4>2. Follow a fitness plan</h4>
<p>Why we give up exercise in order to sit in a chair and work for an extra hour at a lower level of intensity is beyond me. I used to do it myself. I dealt with stress by eating and worked instead of working out. The result? Not only did I burn out but I got really chubby, too!</p>
<p>If you want to avoid burnout, resurrect that New Year’s Resolution and figure out what it takes to get you exercising on a regular basis. Apart from all the physical benefits of exercise, you’ll enjoy the mental satisfaction of knowing that you’re taking good care of yourself again.</p>
<h4>3. Pursue a hobby</h4>
<p>Pick a hobby that has little or nothing to do with what you spend most of your week doing and pursue it with passion! A hobby that uses an entirely different skill set can provide your heart and mind with a satisfying break from the weekly grind and set you on a good path for increased productivity.</p>
<p>You probably won’t even need to worry about picking a new hobby out. The one you abandoned when you sold your soul to the work week is waiting for you to return. Shine up those golf clubs, get out the fishing gear, or buy a new pair of boxing gloves and get moving!</p>
<h4>4. Volunteer</h4>
<p>Nothing brightens the soul or warms the senses like giving to another for no reason other than to give. If you’re feeling run down by life, I implore you to seek out somebody less fortunate than yourself and work to help them.</p>
<p>Reach out to your local soup kitchen or professional organization and ask for referrals to local places that need your help. They’ll be glad to get you started and you’ll soon forget about badly you thought you had it!</p>
<h4>5. Write a manifesto</h4>
<p>Have you forgotten what you want out of life? It’s easy to lose track of time and even easier to forget about what makes us glad to be alive. What can you do to bring back that focus? Take a day or perhaps an entire weekend and write a manifesto, a declaration of purpose, for yourself.</p>
<p>The process will give you focus as you put your intentions into writing. You’ll also discover that stepping back and looking at your life as a whole has a way of putting the stresses of the moment into perspective.</p>
<h4>6. Ask for help</h4>
<p>This is a tough one, especially if you’re a resourceful I’ll-do-it-on-my-own type of person like me. But it’s worth the time it takes to ask for help making sense of something that’s been dragging you down. It’s worth the embarrassment of admitting that you can’t do something on your own to really get help.</p>
<p>Whether your struggle is with a particular part of a project or with something general, like time management, asking for help will get you to a solution faster than you could ever hope to alone. If you want to avoid burnout, you’ll need to swallow your pride on occasion and reach out for help.</p>
<h4>7. Make others laugh</h4>
<p>Humor keeps us sane even through the most stressful of circumstances. Laughter is fun and a great way to reduce stress. Even better, finding ways to make others laugh doesn’t just reduce stress for all involved. It allows you to begin viewing yourself as a source of fun and laughter in your social or work group.</p>
<p>You’ll find it hard to be glum and entertain unhappy thoughts when the people around you are excited and happy to be near you. There’s no need to be a genius comedian. Start out by learning a few good jokes and add as you go!</p>
<h4>8. Make an escape list</h4>
<p>An “escape list” is a list of everything you’d need to do in order to escape a situation that’s driving you nuts. In a work context, your escape list might include things like turning in a final presentation or asking for a raise. It might also include smaller things like submitting your resume to a new opportunity or drafting a letter of resignation!</p>
<p>You might never follow up on the items in your escape list but the process of writing one will help clarify in your mind that you are not truly stuck. <strong>You have options. Perhaps not the best or most fun options, but you are certainly not stuck.</strong></p>
<h4>9. Embrace a morning ritual</h4>
<p>Are you starting your day on the wrong foot by waking up late, rushing about, and skipping out the door at the last minute? Try slowing down your morning instead.<strong> Set your alarm a few minutes earlier than usual and spend the “extra” time sitting in a sunny spot in your living room with a cup of coffee and a good book.</strong></p>
<p>As you slowly add more to your morning, you’ll develop a fierce attachment to “your” time. Why? Because you’ve chosen to start your day with a focus on taking care of yourself instead of busting out of bed like a bomb squad.</p>
<h4>10. Stop making excuses</h4>
<p>Is everything that’s dragging you down right now because of something your boss, partner, friend, or client did? Getting caught up in how much everybody else is screwing up will put you on the fast track to gray hair and a stupendous burnout.</p>
<p>The fix? <strong>Accept responsibility for your part of the problems that plague you. Then start digging your way out.</strong> Once you’ve given up on blaming others you’ll start seeing more of the good in your life and the sordid claws of desperate solitary thought will no longer draw you down.</p>
<h4>11. Be accountable</h4>
<p>Accountability is something we’re all familiar with but rarely put into useful practice. You can use accountability to drive your personal development and avoid burnout. The trick is find somebody you can trust to give the down and dirty on what you’re trying to do and how you’re moving forward.</p>
<p>For best results, have your accountability partner NOT be a relative or somebody you’re dating. They typically won’t have the capacity for objective review of your progress. People who love you will often make excuses for you and you want to avoid excuses at all costs.</p>
<blockquote><p>“Accountability breeds response-ability.” ~Stephen R Covey</p>
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<p><strong>Avoiding burnout is a matter of constant vigilance and regular maintenance. What are you doing to avoid burnout? Do you have any tips to add? I’m glad for your thoughts!</strong></p>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 10 Mar 2010 03:27:35 +0000</pubDate>
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Are you easily distracted? I bet you are. If I told you this link led to a list of funny pics of deranged kittens, you’d likely click through and quickly forget our conversation.
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<p><strong>Are you easily distracted?</strong> I bet you are. If I told you <a href="http://www.lifehack.org/feed">this link</a> led to a list of funny pics of deranged kittens, you’d likely click through and quickly forget our conversation.</p>
<p>That won’t happen this time!</p>
<p><strong>Interruptions do the most damage when we allow their appearance to affect us long after we’ve returned to our initial task. </strong>This can happen for a few reasons:</p>
<ul>
<li>We treat any break in our work flow like it’s a fracture in the final product. </li>
<li>We resent our seeming inability to avoid distractions and end up treating their appearance as a personal weakness. </li>
<li>We view distractions as a change in our journey instead of just another bend in the river.</li>
</ul>
<p>What can you do about it?</p>
<h4>1. Embrace Your Fear</h4>
<p>You are not, contrary to what your mother may have told you, different from the rest of us. We all get distracted. We all get annoyed when a productive moment is interrupted. We all get fed up when scheduled events don’t go as planned. If you allow trepidation to sneak into your mind at the prospect of distractions, you’ll cripple your productive abilities.</p>
<p>Fearing distractions also fosters resentment against the ones doing the distracting. Recognize that you will be distracted sometimes and accept those distractions as opportunities to improve. You can’t stop distractions but you can keep them from taking over your day. This is your time!</p>
<h4>2. Plan For Interruptions</h4>
<p>Effective planning is a cornerstone of the productive lifestyle. Planning for interruptions might seem impossible. Does it to you? Here’s an easy visualization that will help you get started with your planning:</p>
<p>Start each work session by drawing a few squares on a small piece of scrap paper. These represent distractions that will almost certainly pop up. As you encounter and conquer distractions, put a check mark in the appropriate box. After awhile you’ll be able to do this in your head. Sounds easy, right? An expected distraction has no power over your day. You still have control.</p>
<h4>3. Delegate And Postpone</h4>
<p>Once you’ve identified an interruption as something that needs attention and not just a nascent longing to goof off, try to postpone your involvement. The brute way of doing this is to shout out, “I don’t have time right now. Don’t bother me!”</p>
<p>The classy option is a bit more involved. Take a moment to understand what the distraction involves. Is somebody dying? Is there a deadline you’ve forgotten? Is there a networking opportunity here? If it turns out that you’re not facing an emergency, postpone your involvement and delegate as much of the detail work to somebody with available resources.</p>
<h4>4. Attack Procrastination</h4>
<p>It’s safe to say that most of us welcome far more distractions than we should. Why? Because we’re chronic procrastinators and distractions offer us a way to slack off without being overtly lazy. The simplest way to attack procrastination is to synthesize urgency with truncated deadlines. If it normally takes you 3 hours to do something, hit the bathroom, grab a glass of water, set a timer for 90 minutes, and tear into your work! This won’t work for every project but it’s a lot of fun when it does!</p>
<h4>5. Split Your Day Into Targets</h4>
<p>Distractions are most dangerous to the person working without short-term goals. You can keep yourself out of the danger zone by setting targets throughout your day. You’ll probably only need to do this for tasks you really don’t want to complete. For example:</p>
<ol>
<li>Send uncomfortable email by 9am </li>
<li>Complete meeting agenda by 12pm </li>
<li>Say pleasant thing to annoying boss by 2pm</li>
</ol>
<p>The power in this process is that you now have time-sensitive targets to steer toward once you’ve escaped distractions. That 8:45am phone conversation that might have gone on for an hour? Nixed by the email deadline. Crops dying on Farmville at 11am? Overruled by the meeting agenda!</p>
<h4>6. Limit Inputs</h4>
<p>The more you limit channels people can use to distract you, the less likely it is that you’ll be distracted. It takes strength of character to ignore social media and your ever-friendly smartphone. It takes trust in the people who work for you to step away from the rush of business and crunch numbers in the back room. It’s hard to disconnect because we often feel a tinge of irrelevance when we step out of the rush.</p>
<p>Do it. Your results will be proof that it was worth the effort.</p>
<h4>7. Batch Outputs</h4>
<p>Responding to emails in batches and scheduling a block of time to make phone calls can seem like a dreary way to do business but it’s a highly effective way to keep distractions at arms length. Batching is even more effective in minimizing the collateral damage caused by Twitter and other social networks if you jump in without a set time frame.</p>
<p>To get started, make a list of the things you must do every day to maintain good communication in your business and throughout your social networks. Give each tool or action it’s own time slot and allow a bit of margin at the end. You won’t get the momentary social high of constant real-time interactions but the long-term benefits will make up for your loss.</p>
<h4>8. Communicate Your Schedule To Others</h4>
<p>When it comes to managing people-based distractions, communication is key. Need to finish a project? Let the people in your work group know that you’ll be off-limits until a certain time. Trying to finish a freelance project in a houseful of kids? Let them know that unless somebody is dying or the house is burning down, you’ll murder a kitten if they interrupt you.</p>
<p>Obviously, if you haven’t taken the time to create a realistic schedule for yourself, sharing that schedule won’t help as much.</p>
<h4>9. Begin With The Main Point</h4>
<p>When you encounter a distraction, get to the heart of it immediately. Your “get to the point” style may go over badly with some people who prefer to give back story before sharing their main point. Apologize for any possible rudeness and ask for the main point anyway.</p>
<p>Once you know the main point you can ask for supporting information and make a smart decision about what to do before getting back to work.</p>
<p>Getting back to work is what you were about to do, wasn’t it?</p>
<p><strong>If you’ve found a particular tip or trick helpful in your quest to beat distractions, I hope you’ll take a moment to share it!</strong></p>
<blockquote><p>Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work. ~Thomas Edison</p>
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5) BE A PARROT &#8211; don&#8217;t think, talk!
I have taught English to hundreds of foreigners. Mostly Germans and Spaniards, but also French, Russian, Polish, Japanese, Chinese, and Arabs. My pupils are usually advanced when they begin lessons with me, in that they can carry on a conversation in English &#8211; [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>By David, From <a href="http://www.language-learning-tips.com/01_Envision_your_goal.htm">Language Learning Tips</a></p>
<p><strong><em><span style="text-decoration: underline;">5)</span></em></strong><em><strong> </strong></em><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>BE A PARROT &#8211; don&#8217;t think, talk!</strong></em></span></p>
<p>I have taught English to hundreds of foreigners. Mostly Germans and Spaniards, but also French, Russian, Polish, Japanese, Chinese, and Arabs. My pupils are usually advanced when they begin lessons with me, in that they can carry on a conversation in English &#8211; which doesn&#8217;t mean that I can always understand what they&#8217;re saying!</p>
<p>Take the Spanish, for example. Do you know what a &#8220;go-at&#8221; is? When a Spanish girl used this word today, I almost corrected her, since I thought she meant &#8220;go to&#8221;, such as &#8220;go to church&#8221;, or whatever. But then I realized she was trying to say &#8220;goat&#8221;. Where in the world would she get the idea that the word &#8220;goat&#8221; is pronounced as two syllables, &#8220;go&#8221; plus &#8220;at&#8221;. Well, it&#8217;s pretty obvious, isn&#8217;t it? She was trying to pronounce the word &#8220;goat&#8221; as if it were a Spanish word, not an English one. Apparently, years ago, when her high school teacher first taught that word, this girl either wasn&#8217;t in class, or wasn&#8217;t paying attention (or the teacher herself pronounced it incorrectly, something that occurs all-too-frequently in Spanish public schools).</p>
<p>Thus we see the first source of problems as far as pronunciation is concerned: using the rules of pronunciation of your <em>own</em> language to try to pronounce a <em>foreign </em>word. This will only rarely turn out well! I once saw a quote that said it concisely:<br />
&#8220;Language cannot be separated from sound, and that is the heart of the matter.&#8221;<br />
When you learn new words, you will ideally first encounter them aurally, that is, <em>hearing</em> them. Learn to recognize them first by their sound, and then to say them correctly. After that, you can deal with how they are written.<br />
Of course, I know that this is often not practically possible. You learn vocabulary from a list (one of those lists containing the 1000 to 2000 most frequent words in the language), and are thus forced to try to read them <em>before</em> you hear them. Not very natural, is it? After all, when you took your first steps in your own language way back in early childhood, you <em>heard </em>your mother talking, and tried to imitate her. You certainly did <em>not </em>begin by picking up a book and trying to <em>read </em>your first words, did you?</p>
<p>If you have access to a native speaker of your target language (and perhaps already have lessons with that person), I think a good investment would be to pay him or her to record, word for word, <em>all</em> the words in your basic vocabulary list, speaking <em>slowly</em> and <em>clearly</em>, of course, perhaps leaving a few seconds between the words, so that when you listen, you can <em>repeat</em> the word you&#8217;ve just heard. Then, you can<em> listen </em>to that recording again and again. True, it might take the person a few hours to record a list of a couple of thousand words, but maybe you and a few friends can chip in to pay him/her for the effort, and then you can make copies of the recording for each of you. When listening to the recording, you can simultaneously <em>look</em> at the list. This way, you are learning the sound of the words along with their correct spelling. When you yourself say each word, <strong>BE A PARROT!<br />
</strong><br />
Consider the parrot. Some of them know quite a few words. How did they learn them? Certainly not by reading. They learned simply by hearing and repeating. No thinking was necessary. When you repeat the words your teacher says, you should strive to be a parrot as well. Don&#8217;t <em>analyze </em>(for example, don&#8217;t ask yourself: &#8220;Let&#8217;s see, was that sound the teacher said like this, or like that&#8230;?&#8221;)<br />
<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>SIMPLY TRY TO ABSORB THE SOUND, AND REPEAT IT AS CLOSELY AS POSSIBLE.</strong></span></p>
<p><strong></strong></p>
<p>By not thinking, you will be able to avoid censoring what you yourself say, which can lead to mental blocks. For instance, some pupils, when they hear a word in a foreign tongue, hesitate before trying to say it themselves. They first want to think about how it is written, how to form the mouth when pronouncing it, etc. Yet the best thing to do at first is <em>just say it</em>. Your pronunciation wasn&#8217;t on the mark? Fine. <strong>Then say it again. And again. And again&#8230; </strong>Keep repeating it until what you say sounds like what the teacher said. Insist that your teacher not be satisfies until say it right.  Usually, you will get it after a few tries at most. If not, <strong>then </strong>is the time to analyze. <em>Now</em>, you can think. Ask yourself what you are doing wrong. Are your positioning your lips and tongue correctly? Could it be that you didn&#8217;t listen well in the first place, so that you aren&#8217;t really sure <em>how</em> the word sounds yet? Have the teacher say it again (or rewind your recording a bit). <em>LISTEN MORE CLOSELY</em>. Then try to say it again. In any case&#8230;<br />
<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>DON&#8217;T BE SATISFIED UNTIL YOU ARE ABLE TO PRONOUNCE THE WORD AS CLOSELY TO THE NATIVE SPEAKER&#8217;S PRONUNCIATION AS POSSIBLE. </strong></span></p>
<p>If your mind seems &#8220;blocked&#8221;, that is, if you can&#8217;t seem to get it right no matter what you try, then it&#8217;s time to take a step back. <em>Don&#8217;t</em> tell yourself you just <em>can&#8217;t</em> get it right, that you are a failure, or whatever. Even if you&#8217;re learning a foreign language as difficult as Chinese, always remember: There are <em>millions</em> of people who speak that language, and they certainly aren&#8217;t all geniuses! It <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>can</strong></span> be done.</p>
<p>When it isn&#8217;t going well, the first thing you should do is <strong>RELAX</strong>. Seriously. <strong>SIT BACK IN YOUR CHAIR. BREATHE DEEPLY</strong>. Inhale, exhale, slowly. Feel your body relaxing, your mind opening up. Tell yourself that you will now listen to the word again, in this relaxed state, and that you will then be able to say it yourself. Listen again, and repeat. I have seen countless times that when a pupils relaxes, he or she can suddenly listen much better, and is thus better able to repeat what is heard. Try it out when the going gets rough, and more likely than not, you&#8217;ll surprise yourself at how much easier it is when you are relaxed. <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Relax, listen, absorb the sound, repeat, as if you were a parrot.</strong></span> It&#8217;s the best way there is to learn good pronunciation.</p>
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4) Divide and conquer
Learning a language can, on one level, be compared to putting together a rather large jigsaw puzzle. Imagine that somebody gives you a puzzle that shows a panoramic view of the grand canyon &#8211; that is, if you ever manage to put all the pieces together. For [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>By David, From <a href="http://www.language-learning-tips.com/01_Envision_your_goal.htm">Language Learning Tips</a></p>
<p><i><b><u>4) Divide and conquer</u></b></i></p>
<p>Learning a language can, on one level, be compared to putting together a rather large jigsaw puzzle. Imagine that somebody gives you a puzzle that shows a panoramic view of the grand canyon &#8211; that is, if you ever manage to put all the pieces together. For there are several thousand of them, and many seem to look exacerbatingly similar. So how do you do it? Little by little, with patience and perseverance. You know you can&#8217;t do it in a day, maybe not even in a week or a month, but if you do something on a regular basis, connecting just a few pieces daily, you know you&#8217;ll finish sooner or later.</p>
<p>Admittedly, the analogy isn&#8217;t perfect. After all, the puzzle does have a limited number of pieces, and depending on how many there are altogether, you can calculate exactly how many days it&#8217;ll take you to finish if you manage to put together, say, 3 pieces a day. A language, on the other hand, is constantly growing, developing, changing, evolving&#8230; Nobody in the world knows everything there is to know about his or her native tongue, let alone a foreign language.</p>
<p>But then, when you set out to learn a foreign language, your goal isn&#8217;t to know everything about it (since you are aware that that isn&#8217;t possible). It is instead to master a vocabulary consisting of the most commonly used words, to learn to use the grammar correctly, and, in the end, to be able to understand and to make yourself understood in that language. This is an aim that can indeed be divided up into a few thousand parts. </p>
<p>Working with a list of the 1500 most frequently encountered words in your target language, as well as a good grammar book, you might theoretically be able to determine, for instance, 2500 &quot;elements&quot; that are to be learned: the 1500 vocabulary words, plus 1 thousand grammatical units. (One grammatical unit being, for example, the present tense of the verb &quot;to be&quot; in your target language; another one being the past tense, yet another could be a rule concerning word order, etc.)</p>
<p>Now, if you learn 5 parts of this &quot;puzzle&quot; every single day, you know you will have achieved your goal in 500 days, or about a year and a half (2500 &quot;elements&quot; divided by 5 = 500). That&#8217;s not really so long, is it? Sure, you&#8217;ll have to review material already learned, but if your daily &quot;quota&quot; of new elements isn&#8217;t too large, you&#8217;ll easily have enough time left over for review. </p>
<p>Working in such a way not only <b><i>guarantees progress</i></b>, but just as importantly, it serves to all but completely eliminate one of the most formidable obstacles to learning any subject of wide scope: the frustration you can feel when you think about <i>all </i>the things you&#8217;ll have to learn in order to reach your goal. </p>
<p>When you first begin to learn a language, it can seem a bit overwhelming. Learning how to say &quot;Buenos días&quot;, or &quot;Wie geht es Ihnen?&quot; isn&#8217;t so bad, but as soon as you want to express just about anything else, you realize that you don&#8217;t know how to do so. Even after a couple of months, you still might have trouble speaking in tenses other than the present, and this severely limits your ability to communicate with others. It&#8217;s as if you were climbing a mountain: if you look down, you may be delighted to see that you have already climbed the first few hundred meters, but when you look up, the peak may still be very far away!</p>
<p><b>By &quot;dividing and conquering&quot; &#8211; learning just a few little &quot;pieces&quot; at a time, but on a consistent and regular basis, you will reach your goal, with an absolute minimum of frustration.</b></p>
<p>For your daily goal will not be &quot;to be able to speak this *!#* language NOW!&quot;, but rather, to simply learn a few elements, and then do the same thing tomorrow, the next day, and so on. <b>Patience, discipline, perseverance</b>&#8230; and before you know it, you will find that you can handle yourself quite well in your new language, without ever having felt that your head was going to explode!&#160; </p>
<p>A piece of practical advice: when you are learning a language, be sure you have a book that fulfills these requirements:</p>
<p>1) It should teach the grammar in a clear, orderly fashion, concentrating on the most important grammatical features, without dwelling on useless information. By &quot;useless&quot;, I mean elements of grammar that are antiquated, extremely rare, etc. Once you have reached an advanced level, you can always buy another book that go into such details. But in the beginning, you should concentrate on <i>useful </i>grammar, with the goal of <b>MASTERING</b> it. </p>
<p>2) It doesn&#8217;t give you a vocabulary of thousands of words. During my years of teaching English here in Spain, I have often seen books used for teaching English to Spanish high-school students that contain words that even I have never used in my life. This is senseless. Get yourself a list of the 1000 most common words (preferably ordered according to frequency) in your target language, and use this as a basis for vocabulary. In your grammar book, concentrate on memorizing the useful vocabulary; if you see a word that you would seldom ever need, don&#8217;t bother with it! </p>
<p>3) It contains exercises as well as an answer key in the back. There&#8217;s nothing more frustrating than to do grammar exercises, and then to have no way to check your answers. Of course, if you are working with a teacher, he/she can correct your mistakes. Nonetheless, since you&#8217;ll no doubt be learning alone a lot, it is a comfort to know that when you are finished the exercises, you can immediately see if and where you went wrong.</p>
<p>Of course, languages cannot be learned with books alone: you will also have to <b>LISTEN</b> and <b>SPEAK</b>. For this purpose. besides learning vocabulary and grammar, you must learn good pronunciation, so that you will understand others when they speak, and so that you yourself will be understood. This takes us to our next subject, entitled&#8230; </p>
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		<title>Altogether &#8211; All together</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 08 Mar 2010 01:19:26 +0000</pubDate>
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Altogether is an adverb that modifies adjectives. Altogether can mean &#34;entirely&#34; or &#34;completely,&#34; &#34;all told,&#34; or &#34;on the whole.&#34; 

The bride was altogether unhappy with the flower selection. 
Over the years he owned five cars altogether. 
The performance was altogether pretty good.

 
All together means &#34;all in one place.&#34;

Stand all together for the photo.

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<p><b>Altogether</b> is an adverb that modifies adjectives. <b>Altogether</b> can mean &quot;entirely&quot; or &quot;completely,&quot; &quot;all told,&quot; or &quot;on the whole.&quot; </p>
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<li><i>The bride was altogether unhappy with the flower selection. </i></li>
<li><i>Over the years he owned five cars altogether. </i></li>
<li><i>The performance was altogether pretty good.</i></li>
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<p><b>All together</b> means &quot;all in one place.&quot;</p>
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<li><i>Stand all together for the photo.</i></li>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Mar 2010 02:16:00 +0000</pubDate>
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3)Memory Techniques:How to Learn&#160; faster, and Remember better
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>By David, From <a href="http://www.language-learning-tips.com/01_Envision_your_goal.htm">Language Learning Tips</a></p>
<p><b><i><u>3)</u></i></b><b><u><i>Memory Techniques:How to Learn&#160; faster, and Remember better</i></u></b></p>
<p>I have been a musician for many years now, and my experiences in that area have often helped me in the field of language teaching. It often happens to me that I will be walking down the street, and a piece of music is constantly going through my mind, on a semi-conscious level. When I then think consciously about it, I realize that the piece in my mind was the one I had been rehearsing several hours before. When you practice an instrument, your session doesn&#8217;t really stop when you get up and leave the instrument; rather, your mind continues to &quot;work&quot; on the piece throughout the day. Usually, it&#8217;s the <i>last </i>piece you work on that sticks in your mind the most.&#160; <br />The same thing happens with foreign languages. When we learn, for instance, a list of ten vocabulary words in a foreign language, we can expect to think about them again during the day, though we may not be fully conscious of this. </p>
<p>However, there are two major differences between a vocabulary list and music:     <br />1) A vocabulary list consists of words, of course. After learning the list, we will probably talk to someone, watch TV, or simply think. All of these are activities that involve words &#8211; and most likely, the words in our foreign-language vocabulary list will not be heard, spoken or thought during the course of our normal daily activities. As a result, the &quot;sub/semi&quot;-conscious learning effect will usually not be as great as in the case of music, since&#8230;.     <br />2) Music is a much more <i>emotional</i> expression than are mere word lists. We <i>move</i> to music, we <i>feel</i> when we hear it, it <i>inspires, elates </i>and <i>touches</i> us directly on an emotional level. It is comforting, pleasant and pleasurable&#8230; usually much more so than a list of vocabulary words!     <br />Nonetheless, it IS possible to apply this knowledge about the effect music has on us when learning words.     <br />I remember when I had my first French class back when I was in college. The professor was an elderly European gentleman who had the liveliness of a Spaniard and the charm of a Frenchman (He had been born and raised in Spain, but had lived the greater part of his life in France). </p>
<p>One day, he was teaching possessive adjectives****. Instead of simply reading us the list, he chanted it in a sing-songy way, with the following rhythm     <br />(&quot;^&quot; = short, &#8212; = &quot;long&quot;, &#8212; = &quot;very long&quot;)     <br />^&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; ^&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; &#8211;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; ^&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; ^&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; &#8212;     <br />mon&#160;&#160;&#160; ton&#160;&#160;&#160; son&#160;&#160;&#160; notre&#160;&#160;&#160; votre&#160;&#160;&#160; leur     <br />^&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; ^&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; &#8211;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; ^&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; ^&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; &#8212;     <br />ma&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; ta&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; sa&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; notre&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; votre&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; leur     <br />&#8211;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; &#8211;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; &#8211;&#160;&#160;&#160; &#8212;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; &#8212;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; &#8212;     <br />mes&#160;&#160;&#160; tes&#160;&#160;&#160; ses&#160;&#160;&#160; nos&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; vos&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; leurs     </p>
<p>I remember the looks on some of the students&#8217; faces when the old fellow started rattling this off, his hands keeping time during his little &quot;recital&quot;: some thought he was half crazy!     <br />But do you know what? Many years later, I could <i>still</i> remember <i>all</i> the forms of those possessive adjectives in French. If he had simply read us the list, I would have forgotten them by the next day. But the fact that he <b><i>acted out </i></b>that list, chanting them as if they were part of a nursery rhyme, helped to implant that list into my mind in a way that no simple reading could have. Now, over 30 years later, I still remember them whenever I think of that unorthodox, yet excellent teacher.     <br />Such methods are infinitely more effective in helping you memorize lists than mere reading and repeating!</p>
<p>Of course, it may be difficult to apply such a method when learning large numbers of vocabulary words. After all, if we chant every list we have, they will soon become confused in our minds, and this would defeat our purpose. However, the main principle can still be applied, that being, that <u><b>if we add EMOTION and IMAGERY to the material to be learned, we will remember it much better.&#160; <br /></b></u>    <br />Here are a few tips:     <br />If you must learn a small list of grammatical forms &#8211; such as the possessive adjectives above &#8211; chanting them rhythmically is a great way to help you implant them into your memory.     <br />Where new vocabulary is concerned, I recommend the following:     <br />1) When you first read the words, <u><b>say them aloud</b></u>. That way, your mind will not only receive the impression of the printed word on the page, but the SOUND of that word as well, and it will thus be easier to recall later     <br />2) <b><u>Combine and Conquer</u></b>. Never learn lists of words by simply reading them over and over again. Instead, <i>combine</i> groups of words to make sentences. Here&#8217;s an example, using a list of Spanish words.     <br />&#160;&#160; el escritorio = the desk     <br />&#160;&#160; el suelo =&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; the floor     <br />&#160;&#160; la chica =&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; the girl     <br />&#160;&#160; delgado/a&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; slender     <br />&#160;&#160; la caja =&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; the box     <br />&#160;&#160; caerse =&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; to fall     <br />&#160;&#160; coger =&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160;&#160; to get, pick up     <br />Let&#8217;s make a sentence:     <br />&#160;&#160;&#160; Cuando <u>la caja</u> <u>se cae</u> del <u>escritorio</u> al <u>suelo</u>, <u>la chica</u> <u>delgada</u> la <u>coge</u>.     <br />&#160;&#160;&#160; When the box falls from the desk to the floor, the slender girl picks it up.     <br />Seven new words in a single sentence. Now, learn this sentence by memory in Spanish, imagining the situation it describes as vividly as you can: A box on the desks falls to the floor, and a slim girl picks it up.     <br />(Of course, for the two verbs you would have to know &#8211; or look up &#8211; the correct forms in order to make such a sentence.)     <br />The fact that the new words appear in a <i>context</i> will be of great help in remembering the individual words. Weeks later, perhaps you&#8217;ll see the word &quot;delgado&quot;, and won&#8217;t remember what it means. But you <i>might</i> remember the &quot;chica delgada&quot; that was picking up the box&#8230;and when you do, you&#8217;ll most likely recall the meaning of &quot;delgado&quot;, when you think of that slender girl with the box.</p>
<p>Of course, sometimes we will have to learn lists of words that don&#8217;t combine as easily. &quot;basura&quot; (= trash), &quot;filósofo&quot; (philosopher) and &quot;gotear&quot; (= drip) for instance. Combine them anyway to form a sentence: you&#8217;ll soon see that the more ridiculous the sentence turns out, the <i>better</i> you&#8217;ll remember the words in it:     <br />&quot;La basura está goteando encima del filósofo&quot;     <br />&quot;The trash is dripping onto the philosopher&quot;.     <br />Certainly not a very practical sentence, but the unusual image evoked will assure that you don&#8217;t forget those words easily!</p>
<p>It&#8217;s better to keep such sentences simple at first, and not try to fill them with more complicated grammatical structures. You should be able to include 3 to 5 new words in a sentence, maybe even more. Once you write the sentence, memorize it, imagining vividly the &quot;picture&quot; it conveys. Then form another one, using more new words.     <br />You&#8217;ll want to go over these sentences a few days later, then maybe again a couple of weeks later &#8211; after all, as the ancient Greeks said: <b>&quot;Repetition is the mother of learning&quot;</b>. And learning your vocabulary words in such a way will not only make them easier to remember, but more fun to learn as well!</p>
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		<title>4 Ways to Make Your Writing Outstanding</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Mar 2010 00:59:28 +0000</pubDate>
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Perhaps you’ve tried to write something several times, but the words you wrote always seemed to sound awkward.    Or perhaps you’ve written some articles, but they turned out to be plain and forgettable.     If you are wondering how you can write outstanding articles, then here are four [...]]]></description>
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<p>Perhaps you’ve tried to write something several times, but the words you wrote always seemed to sound awkward.    <br />Or perhaps you’ve written some articles, but they turned out to be plain and forgettable.     <br />If you are wondering how you can write outstanding articles, then here are four simple tips to keep in mind.     <br /><b>1. Write in Your Own Style</b>    <br />You should always write in a way that comes naturally to you.     <br />Comparing your style with that of others will make you feel disappointed with what you produce, and, as a result, you may not be able to discover your very own unique style.    <br />Find the writing style that flows naturally from you, and start writing.    <br /><b>2. Write Now, Edit Later</b>    <br />Don’t concern yourself too much with editing as you write your article, because doing so will distract you from delivering the message you want to say.    <br />As much as proofreading and grammar correction are important in writing, it is much more important that you write down your thoughts while they are still fresh in your mind.    <br /><b>3. Never Underestimate the Power of Verbs and Adjectives</b>    <br />The way you use verbs and adjectives can either make a plain article vibrant or turn an interesting article into one that is boring.     <br />Verbs and adjectives add life to your sentences and they can help you turn an otherwise plain statement into a powerful, vibrant statement.    <br />However, if used excessively, verbs and adjectives can make your article sound as if it’s trying too hard.    <br /><b>4. Make the Necessary Revisions</b>    <br />After you have finished writing your article, then it is time to revise and edit it.     <br />This is the stage for correcting grammar, correcting typographical errors, and revising paragraphs that need some stitching up.     <br />Of course another way you can make your writing outstanding is by using WhiteSmoke software, which will enhance your writing.    </p>
<p>Just remember these four practical ways to make your writing outstanding.    <br />Find your own writing style, write your article and skip the editing process first, use verbs and adjectives appropriately, and then revise and edit your article. </p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Mar 2010 00:55:15 +0000</pubDate>
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Being authentic can be surprisingly difficult, especially in business. I often work with people who have no problem being genuine in real life, but who really struggle with authenticity in business. I hear from clients that, in business, they have to appear to be mega-successful — not just sort of [...]]]></description>
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<p>Being authentic can be surprisingly difficult, especially in business. I often work with people who have no problem being genuine in real life, but who really struggle with authenticity in business. I hear from clients that, in business, they have to appear to be mega-successful — not just sort of successful, and not “hey, I’m growing a business here,” but<em> really</em> successful, in order to be taken seriously. There’s so much posturing and pretending, because people believe that you can’t <em>become </em>successful unless you appear to already <em>be </em>successful. But that’s just not true! In fact, it’s just the opposite.</p>
<h4><strong>We’re all works in progress.</strong></h4>
<p>I’ve seen “behind the scenes” of a lot of the people who many of us think of as mega-successful, and things aren’t always how they seem. A well-known wealth coach I know spends most of his time talking about the power of mindset, but I know that he struggles with exactly the same issues everyone else does: doubt, uncertainty, insecurity. We’re all works in progress. Every single one of us. We all have questions and insecurities and fears. It’s how you deal with those internal struggles that matters.<strong>     <br /></strong></p>
<h4><strong>The truth has a way of seeping out anyway.</strong></h4>
<p>We think we’re so good at hiding our secrets from the rest of the world. But whether it’s a financial crisis, marital problems, personal demons, or something else, even if you think you’re keeping your skeletons hidden, you’re probably not. Truth has a way of sneaking out there and betraying our lies. Truth may show up in an uncertain look in your eye or in the way you keep your secrets, but know this: it’s almost impossible to keep things totally hidden.</p>
<h4><strong>It’s not all about appearances. It’s about truth.</strong></h4>
<p><strong></strong>Far too many folks out there seem to think that if you appear to be super-successful, you’ll achieve legitimacy. But it’s not about how you <em>seem</em>, it’s about how you <em>are</em>. If who you really are matches up with who you say you are, then you’ll appear credible, because you<em> are</em> credible. On the other hand, pretend you’re something that you’re not and you’ll come off as shady.</p>
<h4><strong>The real secret to gaining legitimacy is <em>authenticity.</em></strong></h4>
<p><strong></strong>We’re all after legitimacy, in the end. So take the time to build your expertise and knowledge, offer your services at a discounted rate while you gain experience, and build in the right systems to support your products and services so you can offer unparalleled good service. You’ll build credibility by doing things <em>right</em>, and with credibility and legitimacy comes <em>real</em> success.</p>
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<p><em>Susan Baroncini-Moe started her entrepreneurial adventures with a lemonade stand. Now, Susan is the CEO of Business in Blue Jeans, dedicated to helping you design a business you&#8217;ll love or transform your business into optimized profitability. Learn more at <a href="http://www.businessinbluejeans.com/">BusinessInBlueJeans.com</a>.Other links: <a href="http://www.bluejeanswebsites.com/">Blue Jeans Web Sites</a> and <a href="http://www.businessinbluejeans.com/">Susan&#8217;s No Suits Allowed! E-zine</a>.</em></p>
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Some years ago I remember standing in my kitchen, staring silently at my boxes of cereal, trying to decide which to have for breakfast.&#160; Was it a Frostie’s morning, or was it more of an Oat Crunchie’s day?&#160; Or maybe granola?&#160; I stood there for 5 minutes, until – [...]]]></description>
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<p>Some years ago I remember standing in my kitchen, staring silently at my boxes of cereal, trying to decide which to have for breakfast.&#160; Was it a Frostie’s morning, or was it more of an Oat Crunchie’s day?&#160; Or maybe granola?&#160; I stood there for 5 minutes, until – utterly frustrated – I marched out of the house and went without.</p>
<p>Fortunately I’ve learned to make decisions more quickly and more easily now, and when I notice that second-guessing and doubting starting to kick in, I kick it right back.&#160; So here are 5 ways to stop second-guessing or, of you prefer, 5 ways to make confident decisions.</p>
<h4><strong>1. Test them against your values.</strong></h4>
<p>So many times we have to make decisions without a framework and no way to judge between two choices.&#160; When faced with a tricky decision it’s often a good idea to line up your choices and ask “<em>Which one of these most honours the things that mean the most to me</em>?”</p>
<p>The decision that’s most in line with the things that mean the most to you – your core values – will be the best decision for you.&#160; That might not be the simplest or most practical, but because it fits with who you are and what’s most important to you it will always be the best decision for you.</p>
<h4><strong>2. Trust your gut.</strong></h4>
<p>When I was growing up I used to love rainy Sunday afternoons watching Columbo, especially the bit at the end where he’d sidle up to the Bad Guy, say “<em>Just one more thing</em>” and then proceed to blow apart the bad guys alibi.&#160; Just brilliant.</p>
<p>What Columbo had bundles of was a great trust in his intuition.&#160; In every episode, from the very moment he first meets the bad guy, he knows ‘whodunnit’ – and he always trusts that.</p>
<p>So look at what your intuition tells you is the ‘right’ decision for you.&#160; Forget about all the “<em>What if’s</em>” and the myriad, tiny details – what is your gut telling you?&#160; Listen to your intuition, it knows what it’s talking about.</p>
<h4><strong>3. It just doesn’t matter.</strong></h4>
<p>My decision between breakfast cereals wasn’t a biggie.&#160; Whichever one I chose, there were never going to be any huge consequences and the ripples from that decision wouldn’t have been felt much further than the end of my spoon.&#160; Sometimes it just doesn’t matter which way you go.</p>
<p>It’s easy to get wrapped up in second guessing yourself, going round in circles and over-complicating things, when – if you get right down to it – it just doesn’t matter. Going round in circles is only going to make you dizzy, so stop it.&#160; Ask yourself this question – if your future happiness wasn’t dependent on your decision (and it isn’t, by the way), which way would you go?</p>
<h4><strong>4. Have <em>enough</em> information.</strong></h4>
<p>Go and get the facts before you make a complex decision.&#160; By all means weigh up the pro’s and con’s so that you can get an understanding of what’s behind a choice.&#160; But be careful – there’s a huge difference between knowing <em>enough</em> to make a choice, and knowing <em>everything</em> to make a choice.</p>
<p>When you feel yourself pursuing every fact or every piece of information before you make a decision, stop yourself.&#160; Ask “<em>What do I really need to know to make this decision?</em>” and focus your efforts on getting the best information relatively quickly, rather than pursuing all of the information you could get your hands on given a longer period of time.</p>
<h4><strong>5. Respect your doubts.</strong></h4>
<p>We all naturally shy away from change, and we’ve developed a whole bunch of tricks that make it easy for us to avoid making decisions and stay exactly where we are.&#160; That part of you is often called the “Gremlin”, and it’s the part of you that would rather avoid making decisions altogether rather than run the risk of making a bad one or screwing up.</p>
<p>Your Gremlin is not the same thing as having doubts, which are valid concerns about a possible course of action, or reasonable concerns about what might be in store. Your doubts can help you prepare for change and get ready for what could happen.</p>
<p>Your Gremlin is adept at feeding on your doubts and using them to get you to stay put, so knowing the difference between your Gremlin and your valid doubts helps you clarify what’s real and what’s imagined, what’s relevant and what’s irrelevant.</p>
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<p><em>Steve Errey almost died at age 9 as he choked on a grape. Today, Steve is still feeling the effects of some extravagant spending but remains remarkably upbeat and positive. As a leading confidence coach with clients right around the world, Steve has a reputation for talking sense and getting results. Read more at <a href="http://www.theconfidenceguyonline.com/blog">The Confidence Guy</a></em></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[By David, From Language Learning Tips
2)How to form positive habits that will help you reach your goals
If you&#8217;ve already read my article &#34;Envision your goal, plan your strategy, and go for it!&#34;, you now know one way to form a positive habit: by writing down, on a daily basis, that which you&#8217;ve done on that [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>By David, From <a href="http://www.language-learning-tips.com/01_Envision_your_goal.htm">Language Learning Tips</a></p>
<p><b><i><u>2)</u></i></b><i><b><u>H</u><u>ow to form positive habits that </u><u>will help you reach your goals</u></b></i></p>
<p>If you&#8217;ve already read my article <a href="http://www.language-learning-tips.com/01_Envision_your_goal.htm">&quot;Envision your goal, plan your strategy, and go for it!&quot;</a>, you now know one way to form a positive habit: by writing down, on a daily basis, that which you&#8217;ve done on that day, and making it a point to look at this list every day, in order to make sure you continue doing what you&#8217;ve set out to do, as well as to track your progress.    <br />But there will be times when you&#8217;re tempted on occasion to not learn your daily words. You&#8217;ll hear yourself thinking up all kinds of excuses: &quot;I&#8217;m so tired now, I couldn&#8217;t learn anything anyway&quot;; &quot;I can do it later, maybe before going to bed&quot;; &quot;I really have better things to do right now&quot;, or whatever else you can come up with.&#160; <br />We often have the tendency to make up reasons to not do what we know we should do; this is &quot;only human&quot;, you might say. I know in my case, when it&#8217;s really cold outside, and maybe even raining as well, I do not generally feel like going out to run, and if I stop to think about it for a minute, I&#8217;ll no doubt be able to devise at least 10 good reasons why I should stay indoors and do something else. The solution to this problem? Well, it lies within the previous sentence: &quot;if I stop to think about it for a minute&quot;!    <br />Do you want to make sure that you do what you planned to do each day? Then when the time comes, don&#8217;t stop to think about it. Or, as Nike puts it quite aptly, just do it!    <br />The value of this slogan cannot be overestimated. You have decided you want to do something &#8211; for example, learn 3 new words a day. You know you can do this in a short time, almost effortlessly, once you start. If you plan to learn those words at a certain time of day, then when that time comes, get out your word list, select three new ones, and learn them. No thinking about it first. No asking yourself whether it wouldn&#8217;t be better to do it later. No procrastination of any sort. JUST DO IT! </p>
<p>Of course, you may well hear a little voice within yourself thinking up excuses. Let it talk, but while it does, begin to take action, get out your word list, and start to learn. Don&#8217;t pay any attention to what the little voice is saying. Treat it like as you would someone who habitually nags at you: don&#8217;t try to think up counter-arguments, just take action. And when you do, the little voice will disappear, for it&#8217;ll know that your will has won the game!   <br />When you first start learning the foreign language of your choice methodically on a daily basis, you will often be in danger of listening to that dissenting voice within, and may be tempted to take its arguments seriously. In this phase, as I&#8217;ve already said, simply act before you have time to decide not to. After a couple of months or so, you&#8217;ll discover that once your habit has been formed, that little voice may well continue chatting away, but the effect it has on you is different: you&#8217;ll find that the more it tries to dissuade you, the firmer your will becomes, and the more decided you are to get your task accomplished. When you notice this happening, you can be sure that you have turned your learning routine into a positive habit, and it becomes less and less likely that you will give it up.    <br />At some point while reading the last couple of pages, you may have thought that all this talk about determination, willpower, and so on is somewhat exaggerated. How much willpower does it take to learn three words a day? That&#8217;s a cinch! No need to worry about forming habits, acquiring discipline&#8230; Ah, but here, I would disagree. You have made a decision to learn something every day, and even if it&#8217;s just three words, doing it every day will occasionally be quite difficult indeed.&#160; <br />Decide when you want to start. Today, if possible, tomorrow, at the latest. Then&#8230;     <br />&#160; &#8211; When you start, tell yourself you will do it every day.    <br />&#160; &#8211; When the time comes to learn, don&#8217;t think about whether you should or shouldn&#8217;t, simply begin to act: do it!</p>
<p>&#160; &#8211; Once you&#8217;ve learned your words, add the day&#8217;s date (and the words you&#8217;ve learned) to your list in the notebook. Then do anything else you may have planned for that day.   <br />Follow these steps on a daily basis, and before you know it, learning something every day will have become a positive habit. Nothing can now stop you from mastering your favorite foreign language!</p>
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